The Right Environment for Your Baby from Day 1 - Part 2

Successful conception does not just involve eggs and sperm and the reproductive tract. The reproductive system, just as all other areas of human physiology, works best when the entire organism is healthy and balanced. This includes not just physical health, but mental health and sexual health.

With respect to physical health, most of what we should be doing is just common sense. For women, mild to moderate regular exercise is best. Although data on the level of exercise that is optimal for conception is scarce, probably no more than 4 hours per week of aerobic exercise may be best¹. Much higher levels can lead to too low a level of body fat for women (optimal body fat for women should be about 20% of total body weight). Excessively lean women (less than 10%) have more problems with proper reproductive hormonal functioning when it comes to ovulation. And while speculative, it is likely humans evolved mechanisms to limit female reproduction in times of starvation (low body fat may mimic a starvation mode) and when we are too much on the run as well. A study published in 2002 looked for associations between exercise levels and pregnancy and birth outcomes in exercising pregnant women². The study reported that women who exercised heavily during pregnancy had smaller babies, more labor inductions and longer labor and well as more colds and flu than more sedentary pregnant women. These are surprising results! Despite these studies it is likely that some moderate amount of exercise helps to promote a sense of well-being and the mental composure to deal with the stresses of every day life and the stress of dealing with fertility issues. Cardiovascular fitness can only be a good thing for pregnancy and beyond.

As many of our patients are aware, the experience of trying to conceive, especially if it’s taking a long time, can take a toll on sex and intimacy in a relationship. It is so important for partners to be patient with each other and make the effort to maintain the romance and intimacy which keep the relationship healthy. Yes, plan to have sex on the most fertile days of the month, but don’t stop having it before and after the fertile times as well! There is no medical evidence that sex is harmful during the post-ovulation or early pregnancy period. Try to keep the sex-as-fun-and-special attitude alive throughout the month, including baby-making sex days. If there are stresses associated with this issue, we can provide referrals to psychologists that specialize in counseling about sexual health and are professionals in this area. Remember that our sex lives will outlive the infertility, the new baby and the growing children experiences. So it is crucial to nurture this aspect of the relationship.

There is no question that having a good sexual relationship promotes intimacy and better communication. This is so important when it comes to supporting each other. Fertility problems can be a crisis time in the lives of young adults. Sometimes the crisis situation can bring a couple closer together and sometimes it can cause them to feel isolated, even from each other. Communication is essential. For most women, communication is usually inherently verbal; she wants to talk about it and about her feelings. For most men, dealing with painful feelings, such as that recent negative pregnancy test or that recent miscarriage can be difficult for him to verbalize. Add to this frustration, the obvious sorrow of his female partner and men can feel helpless. It doesn’t necessarily help to try to force people to talk about these feelings, at least until they are ready. Letting him go the gym or shoot some hoops with some friends might be a better way for him to initially deal with bad news. But when the time comes, talking and acknowledging each other’s feelings and understanding how each person deals with difficult situations can make a relationship much stronger.

*R**eferences:*

1. Effects of Lifetime Exercise on the Outcome of In Vitro Fertilization Morris, Stephanie N.; Missmer, Stacey A.; Cramer, Daniel W.; Powers, R Douglas; McShane, Patricia M.; Hornstein, Mark D.Obstetrics & Gynecology. 108(4):938-945, October 2006.

2 Antpartum, Intrapartum, and Neonatal Significance of Exercise on Healthy, Low-Risk Pregnant Working Women. Maqgtann, Everett F., Evans, Sharon F., Weitz, Beth, Newnham, John. Obstetrics & Gynecology. 99(3):466-472. March 2002.

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