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Building Your Family as a Gay Couple: A Guide to Donor Eggs, Gestational Carriers & LGBTQ+ Family Building at Pacific Fertility Center

For cisgender gay male couples, the path to parenthood often involves two beautifully collaborative components: a donor egg and a gestational carrier. While the process includes several meaningful steps, you don’t have to navigate any of it alone.

At Pacific Fertility Center, we have guided countless cisgender gay male couples through every stage of their family-building journey with expertise, compassion, and a deep commitment to inclusive care. Our goal is to make each step feel clear, supported, and aligned with your vision for growing your family.

Understanding Your Path: The Two Core Building Blocks

For cisgender gay male couples, creating a biological family requires both an egg donor and a gestational carrier—two distinct yet equally important roles that work together to make parenthood possible.

An egg donor provides the eggs used to create embryos. One or both partners may choose to provide sperm, and many couples elect to create embryos using each partner’s sample. This allows for the opportunity to share a biological connection across future children while maintaining flexibility in how you build your family.

A gestational carrier, sometimes referred to as a gestational surrogate, carries and delivers the pregnancy. Unlike traditional surrogacy, a gestational carrier has no genetic connection to the baby. Instead, embryos created using donor eggs and sperm from the intended parent(s) are transferred to the carrier’s uterus.

At Pacific Fertility Center, these two pathways are thoughtfully coordinated to create a seamless and supportive experience.

Finding Your Egg Donor: The Pacific Fertility Center Egg Bank

Pacific Fertility Center provides a trusted, efficient pathway for choosing an egg donor through the Pacific Fertility Center Egg Bank.

This dedicated resource connects intended parents with a diverse group of thoroughly screened egg donors. Patients can explore donor profiles that include personal background, education, medical history, and photos. Every donor undergoes comprehensive medical, genetic, and psychological screening in accordance with industry guidelines.

Because eggs are already retrieved and frozen using advanced vitrification techniques, the Pacific Fertility Center Egg Bank offers shorter timelines compared to fresh donor cycles, along with greater scheduling flexibility and the ability to plan for future siblings using the same donor.

If you’re ready to explore available options, you can view our donors and begin the selection process with confidence.

Working with a Gestational Carrier: What to Expect

Matching with a gestational carrier is a deeply personal experience, and intended parents work with a reputable surrogacy agency to find a qualified match. Pacific Fertility Center offers guidance and referrals to trusted partners, helping cisgender gay male couples navigate this step with confidence.

Once a gestational carrier is identified, Pacific Fertility Center coordinates all medical aspects of care. Embryo creation takes place in the lab, where donor eggs are fertilized and developed into embryos. In some cases, preimplantation genetic testing (PGT) may be recommended to assess embryo health prior to transfer.

The gestational carrier then undergoes a carefully monitored preparation process before a frozen embryo transfer is performed at the optimal time. Following transfer, early pregnancy is closely monitored before care transitions to the carrier’s OB provider.

Legal Considerations: An Important Step

Before any medical procedures begin, both intended parents and the gestational carrier will establish a legal agreement with independent reproductive attorneys. This ensures that parental rights and responsibilities are clearly defined and protected.

While legal services are handled outside of Pacific Fertility Center, your care team will connect you with experienced professionals who specialize in reproductive law, giving cisgender gay male couples peace of mind throughout the process.

Care from Dr. Brent Monseur: Expertise with Empathy

At Pacific Fertility Center, Dr. Brent Monseur (they/them) brings a uniquely affirming and deeply personal approach to LGBTQ+ family building. As a physician committed to identity-affirming care, Dr. Monseur ensures that every patient feels respected, understood, and supported throughout their journey.

Their expertise in donor egg IVF, gestational carrier coordination, and third-party reproduction allows them to guide cisgender gay male couples with both clinical precision and empathy.

Take the Next Step

Your family is worth every step of this journey. At Pacific Fertility Center, you will have a team dedicated to supporting you from your first questions through every milestone ahead.

 👉 Schedule a consultation with our team at Pacific Fertility Center and take the first step toward the family you've been dreaming of. Your journey starts here — and you don’t have to take it alone.

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